Stylo Mum Claptrap

These are all tactics...

2008-12-11T00:57:00.004+08:00

At first, all of us thought that D & Z are supposed to be a very compatible couple, they share everything in life, they chat about almost everything, the sex they had was awesome. Even Z was thinking, even she can only be the 2nd lady, she doesn’t mind, as long as she knows D will be always be with her when she needed him. Although both of them never sit down and actually talk about the “relationship” that they are having, but she thought both of them are actually have common understanding about what was the “relationship” that they are having.

One day, things happened without Z expected. All these while, she taught she was infatuated with D. In fact, she was totally wrong. It was a huge mistake and misunderstanding between she and D. D decided to tell Z the truth. The conversation was started from Z thought that D was a very nice guy, when they were started dating, D was not asking for sex, this made Z thought that their relationship was so special because she knows that D is a player. All the sweet memories that D created for Z as well as all the sweet talks were just a trap to make Z fell for him. D told her that he loves her, he missed her so much, how he wishes to make her his girl friend, etc (too many sweet talks that she would not want to mention about it anymore). All of them, all D has done were all tactics used to please Z, in other words, all of these were used to trap her.

D also mentioned, all these while, there were no emotional attached at all. He has been programmed not to get his emotional involved as he always has his priority which is his girl friend a.k.a. fiancée. So all the while, she thought that both of them were living in their dreamland, in fact, there was only Z lived in her own wonderland which created by D.

Out of sudden, Z be able to see things clear, very clear. She thought she is a smart girl, she did everything careful, she thinks twice before she decided, she thought she be able to understand all the men’s tricks, but she is still naive enough to believe, she is the special one. According to D, Z is special and every girl is special. Before she left, D told her he cares her too much to actually hurt her. Z wondered, is this truth or is one of his tactics again! Z asked D, why he decided to tell her all the truth, because he thought that she is tough enough to take it. In fact, Z is not a tough girl; she is just trying to be tough.

Z was crying non-stop when she was driving back the other day. She cried because she was very disappointed, she cried because she is stupid enough to believe D in labelling her as “Very Close Girl Friend” instead of FXXXing Buddy. Basically they are nothing more than that. 2 months is a very short period of time, but for Z it was the best moment that she ever had since her previous relationship. Anyway, all of these were over.

She decided, if she is going to see D again, it will just for fun and it will be 100% game. Not saying she wanna take revenge, she will treat him exactly on how he treats her. Is a fair game! No more tender, loving, care, if yes, it was also just a one of the tactics.

Z is now in war! Good Luck babe!

Quoted from SATC:

You said you loved me, but why does it hurt so fucking much? Carrie Bradshaw.

Queen Control

2008-11-25T13:47:00.000+08:00

I always said that I’m a very liberal person, I don’t control and I don’t even trying to change or stop men for doing this or that. They always have 100% freedom to do what they want or like to do as long as I was being informed earlier.

However, I realized that being an understanding girl friend, I tend to make my boy friend cheat on me easily. They are trying to take me for granted as I trusted him so much, so is easier for them to actually cheat on me.

Recently, I heard a lot of stories happened around me, most of the guys were saying how their girl friends intended to control them, checked on their MSN conversations, SMS on the phone, give them curfew on what time they need to be home, etc.

I wonder, being a queen to control a man, will it make him a better boyfriend? Do men really like to being controlled?

Lately, MK being forced by his fiancée to include her name in his facebook @ the relationship status “In a relationship with XXX”. She is trying to stop her boyfriend flirting around in facebook. So I asked MK, does it going to stop you flirting with girls no matter on the facebook or reality? He said “NOPE”; he still can get girls, but no doubt it will not be as easy as before. If a girl wanted to flirt with you, she will not care whether you are single, in a relationship or even married. Or some of them may register another facebook account and not letting their wives or girl friends to find out and start flirting there.

Story about a girl who likes to check the boyfriend’s mobile phone especially the SMS. I asked CK, does it make any different? Will this going to stop you flirting around? He said “OF COURSE NOT”; he will just have to delete all the sms that he received and all his outbox messages.

One day, T’s wife was not in town. T reported to his wife saying that he will go back to the mother’s place for dinner. In order to comfort her wife, he needs to use the house phone to call the wife to show that he was at home. T said “I do it this to please her; I can still go out after called her phone the house”.

W is working as an export manager in a trading company. He needs to travel to overseas frequently due to his work. Last time when there was no 3G function, he was required to MMS the wife on where was he, who he was going with, etc. Now, with 3G, of course he needs to video call the wife no matter where he goes or what he does especially when he is overseas. Sometime, W feels it is embarrassing to do that especially when he was spending time with the clients. How is it possible to shoot your client’s photo and send it to the wife?

Therefore, I came out with the conclusion: -

Sometime, men are just like kids, they do not know how to discipline themselves. Sometimes they tend to go beyond the border line or you can say “lose control”. When the wife or girl friend started to make noise, this will keep them alert. They will be very careful on what they are doing, they will not go wild.

From other perspective, these wives and girl friends have trained or educated their husbands or boy friends to cheat them in a smarter way; the checking or control will not stop them from cheating. For example, he knows his girl friend will check his mobile; he just deleted all the message that he received or sent. He knows that the girl friend or wife will not be happy he hang out with female friends, he can just make up story saying that he was having drink with his buddies or male colleagues.

As for me, I appreciate an honest man, I will prefer him to tell me the truth and deal with it instead of forcing him to quit. Because I know that he will not quit unless he decided to quit, if not he will still find his way to do it. I’m not mentioned about cheating here, same goes to others habit that girls usually don’t like, such as smoking and drinking. Men will still do it without your concern; they have their way to do it.

Trust me!

It’s complicated

2008-11-18T19:58:00.000+08:00

"It’s complicated”, is this terms sound familiar to you? I got to know the terms when I first registered on my Friendster account. It appears on the marital status column: Single, Married, Separated, Divorced & It’s complicated. What does “It’s complicated” means? I always thought that relationship is very straight forward, for example:-

When you are still single, no matter you are available or not  Single
When you are married to someone  Married
When you are separated with you partner (not divorced yet)  Separated
When you are divorced with your spouse  Divorced

So when is the time that the relationship becomes complicated?

D is going to get married in 3 months time. Last month, he met Z in a function. Both of them like love at the first sight, they were talking to each other non stop for 6 hours; they have too much to share till they didn’t realized the time flies. Z knows that D is getting married soon, for her, she just need a companion; she doesn’t care whether he is going to get married or not as the main objective is not having D as a permanent partner. However, when the time goes by, this affair slowly turn in to a relationship when they didn’t even realized it. It started to have emotional involved. Z started being upset when D did something to piss her off. They met at least 3 – 4 times a week. They have a permanent place for both of them to spend time together. D never thought of giving up his fiancée as well. He still will be getting married when the time comes, for him; he wants to have both if possible. He even made the statement saying that, if he doesn’t have any fiancée now, he will definitely want Z to be his girl. No one will know what happened in the coming future, sometime they feel guilty, but they just don’t want to think about it. At this moment, they just want to stay in their fantasy world as long as they can.

In order not to be hurt by D when he got married one day, Z is trying to persuade herself that in this relationship, there will be no emotional involved, it started because both of them want to have fun, no string attached, no expectation and no commitment. Like I always agreed, women tends to emotional driven, so is hard for Z to control her emotional sometime. Once in a while, she seems to be very rational but sometime she cried like a baby when D pissed her off. So what Z planned to do now is to dilute her focus on D. She is trying to continue her life on her own like D never exists. To her, D is just like a bonus in her life. Now, she is back in to the market, starts her hunting life again.

Is this what we meant by “It’s complicated”? Yes, for me, it is very complicated. Why human like to complicate things especially relationship. When I was young, I thought relationship suppose to be simple and straight forward. When you like me and I like you, we would love to spend our life together, we are couple. However, things are not as simple as what I think now when I grow older. Is not about black & white anymore, something happens in a grey area.

Sometime you realized, we cannot stand a stable life style for long period of time. We are looking for sparks and climax in our life. When someone is involved in a stable relationship for too long, they will start to find excitement out of their relationship in order to make their relationship last longer.

Is this a human nature which we like to complicate things? Or we get bored easily from a stable relationship?

Girlfriend ≠ Best friend?

2008-09-24T02:53:00.001+08:00

Yesterday, after work we went for a drink in a coffee shop at downtown KL. My friend, Wen was sharing with us regarding a TV talk show that he watched recently, it was about a mid age artist sharing her view on love relationship. She was saying that sometime in a love relationship, the couple needs to be best friends besides being the lovers. After all the excitement at the beginning of a relationship, you need more than love to make the relationship lasting.

I’m totally agreed about this.

I’ve been thinking about this for long time. I was wondering, why a couple can never be friends. Sometime, man will have a few best friends who are girls, they will usually sit down and talk about the man’s problems, they will share their opinions about relationships, let the man knows what the perceptions of woman, complaints about their girl friends, blah blah blah.

The question is why the man cannot share this with his girl friend? Even if he has a tolerate girl friend?

Example A:-

Man, named John, he told his female friend, Zay that he has a crush on his new trainee in the office today. The young fresh girl seems to be very naïve and doesn’t even avoid him after knowing him is attaching with some one now. But why can’t John tell this incident to the girl friend? Will the gf really get upset after that? Or may be the gf can handle this like a friend?

Example B:

A girl, named Jean, is meeting up her net friend without letting her boy friend knows about it. She tells the story to one of his closest friend. So if she really telling this to her bf about this; will the bf be generous and say “Oh! How nice! No worries, baby! Enjoy yourself tonight!” or he will just pretend to be generous, he will start checking the gf and ask “So? Is your net friend calling you again today?”

Example C: (I think this is the most common example)

Man, Mr. C called one of his so called “best friend” who is a girl named Yann to complaint about his job, unreasonable boss, his selfish girl friend, monetary problems, blah blah blah. Why can’t the man open up his heart and share his problems with the girl friend?

Can girlfriend also be your best friend? Can you your problem with your partner? Work, relationship, financial, health, etc. Why you only share your problems with your best friend but not your partner? After all the sweet talking, praising each other, when both of you come back to the reality, will you tell your partner something deeply in your heart? How many man and woman can actually treat their partner like a friend?

All these yeas, I’m trying to be a very understanding and tolerate girl friend, I’m trying to make myself like a friend to my boy friend. But I believe that we are human, we will take it for granted. It is not easy to treat your partner like a friend and it has to be happened in both ways. You have to respect each other and not going below his / her bottom line.

I’m still learning…

When you are getting older…

2008-08-26T02:08:00.004+08:00

2 months back, me and my friend was sitting at the bar listening to live band performance after an expensive dinner. There was an old white man sitting opposite us, keep starring at us. After finished the first glass of white wine, the old man ordered the bar tender to get us another 2 glasses of wine. Out of courtesy, I think we should actually thank him for that. Then we started the conversation. He was here for business and he travels to Malaysia once every month for the past 15 years. He is mid-age man with grey hair; he looks a bit like the age of Sean Connery and Jack Nicholson.

Me, the same old me, I don’t mind getting to know more people especially those powerful person like him. After couples of wine, he started to touch me and asking me to spend a night with him. I rejected him in a polite way, because I’m with my friend and this is not my principle. I still remember he was trying hard to persuade me, he used 3 different techniques: -

Begging

At first, he was trying to beg me “Come, please spend a night with me…please… please… you are lovely… you are so pretty… Come please… just one night @ my room”

Lecture

I insisted I don’t feel like going. He started to lecture me, he said “Life is so short, when you feel like doing something, you have to do it now, if not you will regret!”

Sympathy

Then I said, today was not a good day because me with my friend. And he started to gain my sympathy “When the sun rises, things changed! You may not wanna see me anymore or pick up my calls! You promised you will pick up my calls?”

Although I’m a bit high in alcohol, I was thinking “This old man, not bad! He still knows how to use the technique to persuade me to do that!” At the end, nothing happened!

The next day, he did call me. Due to work, I didn’t manage to meet him at all. He called couple of times from overseas and even want to pay me a trip to Thailand when he was on business trip. But nothing have been work out.

After 2 months, finally he is back. I don’t want him to lose interest in me, so I agreed to go out for dinner with him. After couples of white wine, we went for a nice a.k.a. expensive Japanese restaurant for dinner. The whole conversation was nice, he is being a gentleman. After the dinner, he asked what we should do next? Should we continue to drink at the bar or go back to his room? After the wines, I let him decides.

So he holded my hand and brought me to his room, he turned off all the lights until I cannot see my own fingers. He started to kiss and touch.

That moment, I flashed back the 1 episode I watched from Sex & The City, when Samantha met old millionaire, Ed. Ed didn’t have an old man touch or an old man kiss. When he turned on the light, he has an old man ass!!!

So I know why he wanna turned all the lights off. Everything was fine, just that he is too old to be hard. Even touched or blow also can never get hard. On the other hand, he was trying hard to make me happy, he said what he wants was just seeing me happy. After the whole foreplay session (because he was not ready for sex), he just wanted me to rest on his arm and keep saying that he loves me and want me to stay with him tonight. Of course I’m not going to stay with him because I have early appointment tomorrow.

After the long description of the story, here comes the most important part of the story. Before I left his room, he gave me 100 USD. I was so shocked, the first thing came from my mouth is “I’m not a prostitute!” He said “Of course you are not, take the money and buy some nice clothes or buy something you like; I just want you to be happy!”

Did I take the money? Of course, I did!

I didn’t do anything, no sex happened, he gave me “Ang Pow”. What in my mind was “It was a good trade! He was the one doing all the hard work and now I have money!” So may be what he wants is a just a companionship, may be making a young girl happy can help him to build his confidence level. He sounded horny all the time when we talked on the phone; in fact he is too old for that. Sometimes, I’m worried whether he will die on bed because he is too sexcited!

When a man getting older and they are rich, what they actually want is just to rebuild their confidence? I wonder (after I took the money, of course)…

Friendship VS. Sex-ship

2008-08-11T01:10:00.001+08:00

I always believe that men & women are totally different set of creature. From the physical, the god differentiates us well. Mentally, women are more emotional, sentimental and sophisticated; men are straight forward, rational and they have the quality that women don’t have is – they can separate sex & emotions. Some people said that men are able to separate all the eggs in different baskets, while women put all the eggs in a basket, if one doesn’t go well, it will affect others.

R (a very open minded lady with good career prospect in the company) called me today; she told me she has found a sex partner a month ago from the internet who looks like her ex-boy friend. They didn’t interact much before they go to a hotel in downtown. After meeting a couple of times for sex, R started to have the emotional attached with this guy. She expected his SMS everyday, wondering whether he will text her today, or may be will they meet again anytime soon. However she realized that she is the only one felling that way. Because from the man point of view, she is merely his sex partner not she is even a friend. The worst thing is he doesn’t really know what her real name is; he only knows her nick name.

I remembered M told me her experience before. She has a net friend from overseas spending his trip in Malaysia. Due to Malaysian hospitality, she thought that she may bring him for sight seeing and giving him some traveling advices. So she picked him up from the airport and sent him to the hotel. This guy was very good looking and she had no problem having sex with him if the mood was OK. According to M, the whole meeting was not bad, so the sex did happen. Before she left the hotel, they were actually planned to meet again the next day after she finished work. The next morning, M got the message from this guy, the message was saying that he cannot see her anymore, because seeing her was just out of gratitude and it was not fair to her (which I think is bullshit), so he decided to travel alone. What really hurt was, he mentioned that there was no physical attraction after seeing her; he didn’t feel like hugging her. M was very upset, he came twice during the sex and now he told her that she didn’t appeal to him. The sex part was not purposely arranged by her. The major intention meeting up with this guy was all because of “friendship” that she thought they have. You don’t reject a friend because she doesn’t appeal to you, do you?

From a male friend, his name is K. He said he loves women so much therefore he cannot afford to settle down with a woman. He told me the reason why he need to change his sex partner, because when he spends more time with a girl, she will request more and more after that. So when the girl requests more, he will cut her off from his life. He told me, girls will always ask for more and she will start to look for more commitment from a man after sleeping with him. Women always want to get more focus and they tend to get jealous, then the man started to get questions and problems after that. All of these “qualities” of women “force” him to change his partner every season. Obviously, I do not see any “friendship” in him and his sex partner. Everything he planned or did is merely for great sex, like wonderful dinner, nice wine, good movie, etc.

Sometimes, I realized that women are looking for a soul mate or so called “friend” instead of just sex partner. This guy is not necessary have to be her boy friend or husband, just someone they can talk and share life; of course they also could fulfill their sexual desire once in a while.

But for men, they do not need a soul mate; they just need a sex partner. They can just f*** without any talking or communication.

The intention of a man and woman is different here. For a woman, friendship always comes first; for men, sex-ship comes first. Without sex, women can still be friend with the man (unless he is very annoying in person). For some men, no sex = no talk. They talk to you when they want sex.

I believe men are rational when they are dealing with their sex partner. If you are the sex partner category, you will forever in it. You will not be able to switch your role to the potential girl friends category or even the “friends” category. For women, sex partner can be potential boy friend or best friend. Because women will not simply sleep with any guys they picked up on the street. She has to like him in a way.

I agree that women are more emotional driven, men are more sexually driven. Men know how to separate sex & emotions; sometimes I really amaze how men actually can do that…

Love 2008

2008-08-09T22:30:00.001+08:00

女人给男人的忠告！

2008-08-05T23:57:00.002+08:00

1 别以为女人是你肚子里面的蛔虫，你爱不爱她，你什么也不说，你什么也不做，她怎么会知道？

2．别在女人撒娇的时候冷落她，否则她可能会认为她在你心里已经不重要了。

3．性关系对女人来说，远远没有男人想得那么重要，所以，不要以为她爱你，就该在你需要的时候，无条件地满足你，那样她只能认为你只在乎性，而不是她。

4．在她穿上新衣服的时候，适当地赞扬她一下，别总说这个太暴露、那个太透明；即使真的如此，你可以跟她说：?这件衣服你穿着真漂亮，但只能穿给我看！?她会明白的。

5．别动不动跟她说：?你懂什么？我的事你别管！?女人也有自尊，即使在她最爱的男人面前，她依然有自尊。

6．在她独处的时候，给她自由，别说她今天很奇怪；她静默的时候，给她拥抱，别问她为什么。

7．她一定会有异性朋友，甚至会是知心朋友，别担心，女人对爱情和友谊，往往比男人分得清楚。

8．吃醋是女人的专利，如果女人有天不吃你的醋了，那只可能是她不爱你了；但醋吃多了，女人会伤心，依然会离开她爱的你。

9．女人对于爱情的需要和男人对于性的需要一样多，所以不要指责她对爱情的追求是?奢侈?。

10．能容忍自己的男人去偷吃的女人，永远是少数，不要期待你的女人是少数派；即便她真的是，那她可能也找到了平衡心态的方式：也去偷吃。

11．记住：这个世界的男女比例是 1.04 ：1，女人永远比男人少，而且，每个男人都想拥有几个女人。结论是：女人永远比男人有性别优势！

先處理心情、再處理事情

2008-08-02T17:59:00.002+08:00

我們必須學習
『情緒忍受力』和『挫折容忍力』
因為，
『脾氣來了，福氣就沒有了』
在我們碰到棘手的問題時，必須先靜下來、勿衝動行事也學習
『先處理心情、再處理事情』
免得事情愈弄愈糟糕有句話說：
『生命的長度是上帝所給予的，但生命的寬度卻掌握在我們自己的手中』
的確，我們雖然不能控制生命的
『長度』
但我們可以控制生命的
『寬度』

Delete or not delete?

2008-07-29T01:37:00.004+08:00

Early this year, I met a Dutch man (my first Dutch friend), JV who working in Malaysia for 4 months on a special project. He was the first foreign friend that I ever know. We knew each other when he just reached Malaysia.

We went out for a drink after that. I brought him to Sky Bar @ Traders Hotel (One of the nicest bars in Kuala Lumpur which is facing the Twin Towers). The outing was nice and fun. We chatted for couple of hours even though he said he was actually very busy at work. He was fun, humor and very good looking.

When we met, he kissed me 3 times on the cheek and he said this is their Dutch culture. He was new in town, so I offered him to send him back to his hotel. Before he went down from the car, he actually invited me to his room. But, I rejected him. May be I was not ready at that moment. Or perhaps, I was just scared. Then I was thinking may be I will go to his room when we meet for the 2nd time.

For your information, there is no 2nd time. We never meet again.

We chatted once in a while when we met on MSN about Malaysian economy, politics, entertainment, work etc. According to him, he was very busy at work because he only has 4 months time to finish his assignment in Malaysia. After the dateline, he has to go back to his home country.

4 months later after the first meeting, he told me he will be back to Amsterdam by end of May 2008. So I was suggesting, may be we could meet before he left. Who know, by the time I saw him online again, he was already back to Amsterdam. And yet, we were no longer chatting anymore.

So I was THINKING whether I should delete him from my friend list as I may not see him again for the rest of my life. Furthermore, we do not have common topics to chat about after he went back. On the other hand, I was thinking it may make me look bad if I deleted him because I can still keep him as a friend. May be I can visit him if I ever go to Amsterdam for holiday.

After all the thinking, I was nearly forgotten about him. Until today, I was thinking what is he doing recently. I remembered I saw his FB status once that he was leaving to Croatia. So I tried to search his name from my friend list, I couldn’t find him. Then I looked for the old e-mails that he had sent to me and click on his profile.

Guess what…Yes, you got it! He deleted me from his friend list!

I was like “Bloody hell! B**tard!” How could he delete me from his list? (Because I should be the one who delete him, not him). I feel insulted! Although the idea has came to my mind before (whether to delete him or not), but I decided to leave him in my list.

Why? Why he deleted me from his friend list? May be he thought the same as I was thinking? Or may be he thought that I was already in the past, and he is now looking for the future.

I was so angry…

He deleted me from FB, so … I deleted him from MSN. Fair enough, right?

A friend? Or a man?

2008-07-26T01:51:00.003+08:00

After graduated, there is such a long time I never spend time with my friends. Especially when every one of us is busy at work, boyfriend’s birthday, boyfriend’s family gathering, bla bla bla… You know, when you feel not to going out with your friends, you can find have all sorts of reason to reject the outing.

There was one time; we had an ex-schoolmate gathering after 10 years we graduated. The gathering had been postponed for 3 times because is hard to fit everyone’s schedule. At the end up we managed to gather 3 people to attend the gathering, another 1 came very late after we finished the food (If I’m not mistaken, we had 50 over classmates in our class last time)

L said “SK is not here today, she has dinner with her family in laws.”

But, we gathered for lunch!!!

S said “M will be late today; because she has to bring the boyfriend’s doggie to see vet.”

What? Can’t the boyfriend bring the bloody dog to the vet?

J said “Jane cannot come today; she has to stay with her boyfriend.”

You can stay with your boyfriend for the rest of your life if you guys are getting married one day. But how often can you spend time with your friends?

If there will be 4 people attending the gathering, why the hell we need to postpone it for 3 times? Now it makes us look bad, like we are the only 4 people in the world who is so damn free, nothing to do, sitting here for “gathering”.

Is spending time with your friends are a waste of time?

LY said “Talking with friends @ the café is wasting time, because you guys are talking nonsense.”

Hello, these are not nonsense, we are updating each other about what every one’s being up to.

T said “If we are really good friends, we do not need to spend time together and we will still be friends forever.”

Relationship or even friendship is something fragile, if you don’t maintain it, you will miss it. It will be too late when you realized it because you already lost a friend.

B said “Yes, you are my friends, but you guys are just friends, you will never be my boy friend.”

Yes yes… sorry I cannot be your boyfriend, because I don’t have a dick. So man is the only creature you need in your life, then I will consider deleting you from my friend list.

R said “Sorry friend, I cannot have dinner with you tonight, because my net friend, he is in town”

Hey, I’m a good friend of you for the past 10 years; you make me having dinner alone because of a net friend that you barely know. May be you could invite me to have dinner together with you and your net friend or at least you give me another better excuse.

Are those on the above, sounds familiar to you? You got it from a friend or you are the one who treated your friend that way?

Sometimes, as a friend, of course you will hope you friend will live happily. But friends are not someone you only call them when you are sad, they can also share your happiness as well. It is unfair to a friend that you only share your sadness when you got hurt or suffer from the relationship. When the time you realized you need a friend, there will be no more friends in your list, because you have ignored them when you are happily in love with your boyfriend.

For me, friendship is more valuable than a man. The possibility for a man to betray you is much higher than a good friend. I believe that a good friend will stand for you when you really need them, but the most important thing is you have to treat them as a friend, not just companion.

So…
How often you see your friends after you got a boyfriend?
How often you turn down your friend because you want to spend time with your boyfriend?
How often you give a call to your friend after you have a boyfriend?

Miss your friend? Call them now…

Hey there, How are you?

2008-07-21T00:04:00.004+08:00

There was a night; me and my gay “boyfriend”, B went to a dinner. We were sharing our “sexperience” about men; basically he was the one who taught me how to tackle a man. After dinner, he brought me to a pub nearby, he wanna to show me how to do it.

When we talked up from the staircase, we saw a gorgeous man sitting with his friend at the bar table. “The first thing, you have to do is, choose a right man and sitting next to him, it definitely need to be at the bar.”

So we chose to sit next to the gorgeous man. He ordered a bottle of white wine. “It will be better if you ordered champagne, if champagne is too expensive for you, at least you have to order something close to it, like white wine.”

While we were chit chatting and observing the man sitting next to us, the man never even looked at us since we sat next to him. We saw there were 2 girls sitting opposite to us and wearing something very revealing. B said “Don’t ever wear like them when you were out hunting for man because it makes you look cheap and desperate. A simple top with one or two button opened in front of your chest will make a woman look sexy enough.”

After an hour, while we finished the bottle of wine, the man finally turned his face and look at us. Without any further ado, B quickly picked up his wine glass and say “Hey there, how are you?” The man replied “Fine, thanks! How about you?” Then we started the conversation.

He is a doctor who is still under training in one of the local government hospital. B was straight to the point and telling him he is gay and I’m straight, well, both of us are hunting for men. We were observing him whole night. He was surprised and you can see smile on his face, he was proud.

When we finished our wine, he offered both of us a drink. I was a bit drunk and I didn’t think I can drink anymore. B ordered a martini and he ordered a long island tea for me. When B said “Martini, please”, the man impressed about it and say “Gays have very high taste. No matter in fashion, life style and even liquor.”

B was whispered to me “Think a drink as your signature drink that make you look classy. Don’t reject any offer when people want to buy you a drink, just take it. Let it if you can’t finish it!”

B was helping me to tackle the guy, so he said “She is single and you are single too, will you call her out for a drink sometime?” “Sure” the man replied. “But you don’t have her number, how are you going to call her then?” The man quickly took out his phone and key-in my number. And of course he gave me his too.

After a nice conversation, the man has to go. He paid our bill. And he kissed me goodbye.

I really impressed on what a gay man can do. He is 100 times advance than me in terms of hunting man. His tactics and his strategies are all works and useful. May be gay men knows men well, they are same kind anyway.

Finally I realized, “Hey there, how are you?” This is the ice breaking sentence. Is that difficult to say the word “HI” to the man that you found gorgeous? Sometimes, is really difficult, I have to admit it.

Handbook: Man hunting @ the bar
* Step into the bar, and find your target
* Must choose a bar seats as the table seats are more isolated and more like a bunch of friends having some closed session which you don’t welcome any interruption.
* Sit next to your target
* Get your signature drink
* For girls, please don’t order beer unless you are with some of your male friends, because beer will downgrade you. If possible, choose wine, because just the tall wine glass can make you look classy.
* Grab the opportunity when your target is looking at you. You may miss the first time, but when your target is going to look at you for the second time. Grad the opportunity and say ““Hey there, how are you?”
* During the conversation, trying to humor, fun and humble. Show the qualities in you, don’t just trying to act pretty.
* Be smart and intelligent
* Beware on what are you wearing, don’t wear something reveal 80% of your breast. It will make you look desperate and horny.
* Be classy and sexy. No bitchy and slutty

Girls, please try it and let me know whether this is useful to you. Gentleman, please tell me whether these are correct to tackle a man.

ENJOY!!!

Friend, we miss you so much!!

2008-07-17T16:43:00.002+08:00

Today is Thursday, tomorrow is Friday again………

Last time, we have a group of friends like to gather on every Friday. We can sit at Starbucks for few hours just for chit chat. But few weeks ago, M has been diagnosed with cancer and need to go for Chemotherapy treatment soon. We are so sad to hear that.

M is a positive thinking and cheerful lady. She always brings a lot of happiness to us. She is the one among them who can really click with me. Every week when come to Friday, it makes me think about her and miss her.

A friend always likes to tell me ‘life is short’. Yes….life is short. We need to learn how to appreciate the time being together with the people surrounding us, everyday, every hour, every minute, every second.............

Hey, friend, hope you recover soon and come back to us on every Friday, we miss you so much!!!!

Me and my “SPECIAL” ex-boyfriend…

2008-07-17T00:22:00.001+08:00

Last weekend, I met my girl friend, L met for a drink. This was the first time we met after she broke up with her boy friend. I feel happy for her, this is not because I want her to be single as I am but she finally gets over a suffered relationship.

I met her @ a nice café in the centre of the city. From far, she looks better and more attractive compared to last time. I cannot see any sadness from her face. I can see she is so over him now.

After a cup of latte, she started to share with me what happened between her and the ex-boy friend: -

Their relationship last for 3 years, after the first year they got together, the boyfriend (Mr. M) started to cheat and flirt around. I still remember how sad she was when she found out Mr. M cheated on her just after a 2D1N trip to Thailand. She was trying very hard to be a nicest girlfriend in the world. She didn’t blame him, and she pretended nothing happened because she loved him, cannot afford to lose him.

She has been through the same issue for 3 times. From hurt badly till she had immune. But each time when she got hurt, she started to let go slowly. Finally, the last time, she decided this will be the last time, she deserved a better man.

L is happier right now. Mr. M treated her better than before when they were couple. He bought her gift when ever he traveled to overseas. He will ask her out once in while for dinner, movie, concert, etc. Even though L bumped into him in a shopping mall holding a girl’s hand, he never admits he has a new girl friend. Anyway, who cares whether he has a new girl friend as long as she feels happier now. At least she is treated like a princess. Now, she is not the one who suffered, is the new girl friend.

So I wonder, man (or many be human) tends to appreciate someone / something after losing it. Why? Why we cannot appreciate and hold on to whatever we are having now? But why Mr. M will treat L better than last time when they were couple? May be he regrets or he feels guilty?

Men are a weird creature. They can be cute and nice sometimes, but sometimes they can also be horrible and bad. Men like to be adventurous sometimes, I realized. They don’t like the happily ever after, they like complicated relationship. They will not satisfy with a normal, stable relationship; they need excitement, fun and flirt. The girls out there are always better than the one at home. May be they just like the feeling of being needed by different women? Or may be they just wanna grab as much “cares” as possible from different women?

My conclusion:
Sometimes, we have a boyfriend who doesn’t do his part, for example, he doesn’t care, he flirts, and he cheats. But sometimes do you realize that we may have a male friend who do exactly what a boyfriend does, who treats you like a girlfriend, he cares, he pays attention on you? In this case, you prefer to have a boyfriend who doesn’t care or you would like to have a male friend who cares?

So is the “BOYFRIEND” labeling important? I confuse…

When a man says “I Love you”

2008-07-09T01:40:00.003+08:00

Today, J met her Latino lover, Mr. SG. They are not couple or even in a serious relationship but they had sex. In short, they are F**king Buddies a.k.a FuBu. Both of them basically have a common understanding that both of them are do not ready to have a steady relationship. They had sex for couple of time, they are happy with what they have right now. However, they are never interfering each other personal life; they just enjoy whatever happened in this moment.

This afternoon, after the romantic and loving moment n the bed, Mr. SG requested a massage from J. Mr. SG enjoys massage, or may be he loves the massages given by J. While Mr. SG was enjoying his massage, suddenly he said “oh! I love you so much…”

At first J was not sure whether she heard what he said, so she just ignored it or may be he just loves massages so much. Then Mr. SG repeated the same sentence again, this time, J heard it clearly. But she just kept quite because she didn’t know how to response to him.

Then, Mr. SG looked in to her eyes and asked her, “Do you love me too?” J was shocked, and she was speechless.
Mr. SG said “You need to think about it? You Don’t Love me? Oh! You don’t love me at all!!!” Then he put his head underneath the pillow and wanted J to give me more massages and J whispered “I hope I can really love you”.
J called me after that and shared with me about what’s happened.

I was wondered for a real player, he must be very careful on what he said, because what he said are giving false hopes to a woman who slept with him before. Previously, he just said “I like you… I miss you … I miss your body…” but he never said “I love you”. Does he mean that? Or he said it because he really love the massages provided by J? J told me, Mr. SG said “I Love you” twice within 2-hour when they met.

The rational side of J understands how to play the game, but the emotional side of her, is hoping that what Mr. SG said was truly from the deepest of his heart. Sometimes, or most of the time, girls are more emotional driven; sex is not their priority in the hierarchy chart, what they need most is care and love. As for J, she was delighted after that, because now her heart is full of love.

So when a man says “I Love you”, does he really mean it?

The definition of I LOVE YOU:-
From Wiktionary: -

An affirmation of affection or deep caring especially to a family member.
An affirmation of romantic feeling to a lover or spouse.
A platonic expression of inclination or liking to a friend.

From Wikipedia: -

Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction.

From Cambridge dictionaries: -

Love (LIKE SOMEONE) to have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and sexually attracted to them, or to feel great affection for a friend or person in your family

You have got a mail....

2008-07-04T23:30:00.021+08:00

Every morning when I wake up, the first thing I’m gonna do is to log on to the internet. Facebook has already become the most important sites that I have to log in a few times a day.This morning, I got a surprise message from a girl, she wrote: -

July, 04 at 7:10am
Dear Ms. J,

Hello, I saw you in JF's friend list. Me too. About 1 month ago I was in his friend list too. He was very nice at first and he invited me to meet him in KL. I thought that he was a good man so I decided to meet him and sleep with him for 3 nights, but after that he started to ignore me.

So if he ever wants to meet you, please reject him and don’t trust anything he said. This is for your own good because what he wants is just sex.Take care.

From,
Ms. A

I was a little surprise when I read the message because I think that JF is an attractive guy (but I never chat with him before). JF is a pilot (because he was wearing the pilot uniform in his photo), good looking French man. He has all the characteristics of the dream guy that most of the girls wanted so much:-

French man (one of the most romantic lovers in the world)
Pilot (WOW! Pilot, who doesn’t want to marry to a pilot)
Single (35-year-old single man, apart from the family, staying alone in Malaysia)

I can say JF is a man who is irresistible! Most of the women would love to be with him. After reading the message, I decided to brush my teeth and clean my face, to make sure that I am totally awake, then I sit in my working desk again to reply her message, I replied: -

July, 04 at 9:11am
Dear Ms. A,

First of all, I would like to thank you for your kind reminder. He really seems to be a nice (from his photo)But I just wanna know, are you just sent the message to me? Or u sent it to every one in his list?

Best Regards,
J

At 2:50pm, I got the message from Ms. A again; she answered “Yes. I sent the message to the girls from his list”.Sometimes, we have no choice to believe on what the old Chinese proverbs say “Don’t ever make a woman mad at you; you will never know what the ladies will do for revenge”.

I think this attractive JF is a serious shit now, because we never know who is in his list, some of them may be friends & family, working counterparts, colleagues, business partners, and now everyone in the list knows he is a player. It may cause him into troubles. I think when he decided to f*** the girl, he never thought that this will gonna happened to him.

However, I think this happened both ways, the girl may be just too naïve to believe a foreigner. When she decided to sleep with him, she should have prepared for the worst. I believe that things happened because both of them wanted it to happen, so the girl will also need to responsible on what’s happened to her. She should not just accuse the man. This is the nature of this “GAME” and don’t forget, every game has the rules that you have to follow.

What I can say to Ms. A is “WELCOME TO THE ADULT’S WORLD”!

If JF really invited me out for date, do you think I should go?

When you realized more and more of your male friends are gays…

2008-07-01T00:23:00.004+08:00

How would you feel when you realized more and more men around you are gay?

I went to a birthday party of a friend recently. Only 10 of us in the group, after a few shots of liquor, I found out that the 3 men out of 10 people, there is only a “REAL” cock. 2 of them are “WOMEN”.

There was a Saturday, my friend and I were sitting at the coffee house in the town, if you are able to observe, more and more gay guys are walking on street especially those smart looking ones. The funniest thing is, both of us are late twenties single woman, now we realized why are we still single! We are not attractive enough…

Since when more and more men have converted themselves into gay?

Mr. D says “I know I’m a gay since I was 12 yrs old. Even though I had a girl friend before, but I know I don’t really loved her. Hmmm… Sometimes, I feel confused about this or may be I'm trying to make myself confused!”

Mr. F says “I’m a 26 year-old virgin. I know subconsciously I like men, but I have not f****d as well as being f****d before.”

Mr. S introduced his male friend to me, “Hi, this is my friend, Monica!” Why is a man named himself Monica?

Mr. M and me having coffee in a café, Mr. M says “Hey, can you see the guy sitting next to us? He is so cute, I like his tough body!”

Mr. B says “Mr. O is so good looking; I can’t wait to sleep with him!”

Oh my god! I can’t believe Mr. B and I, both of us like the same man. So is “Is Mr. O gay too?”

Can you imagine, if there is a day when you going to a pub together with a male friend, and both of you are hunting for men.

Mr. N and Ms J were in a pub hunting for men, they met a cute looking guy sitting next to them. Mr. N told cute guy “I’m gay and she is straight, both of us are looking for men!”

I realized that most of the capable men like those men that hold higher position in the company, socialites are gays. These men are the most wanted guys that most of the women dream to have. But why are they gays?

I know we should not discriminate “homosexual”, sometimes I really wonder why is it happened? This happened because they had some bad experience when they were young? Or they were just playful and they want to try something new? Or they are being hurt badly before by ex-girl friends?

The next question that I will be asking is “Are they happy with their life being a homosexual?”

He did too much......

2008-06-28T09:37:00.001+08:00

“Today is your off day, you should take a rest. But I got to go out, and you have to take care of the kid, I feel guilty and bad………”

“Is ok, darling, you take care of him everyday from day and night, every hour, every second, you should take a break too.”

‘But…..”

“Is all right, I appreciate and happy to stay at home with him.”

I’m very lucky because he always stand besides me and cheer me up and giving supports to me. I know he also worry and sad about our son, just didn’t show off. And besides that, he is always doing his best to cheer me up. Other then son, I know he also worry about his business and works. He did too mush for us. What can I do is just only share my happiness with him, just don’t add on his burden………let me swallow all the sadness….

Emotion

2008-06-27T21:55:00.003+08:00

I can't remember, since when i became more and more emotional.

One of my friend told me before, don't let people control our emotion, we have to control ourself. I had tried it hard, but is failed. Not only failed, is became more serious. My emotion seems like control by my son, it follows his every steps he went through. I will smile when he throw me a smiling face, i will sad when he act abnormal. 'Sad'.....means i will drops my tears for no reason, just feel like want to cry, to release stress, sometimes i also very hate it, cry is not a method of solving problems, but i really cant control my emotion.

My husband can easily read my emotion through my face. But sometimes i have to pretend that i'm find in front of him, because he will drops his tears when i'm cried.

Many friends told me 'be happy'!!! I had forgotten what means 'happy' since few years ago. I think 'happy' will only come back to me when my son is being normal..............

I always put on my mind 'Hope on Tomorrow', but i dont know how many tomorrow we have and who can predict tomorrow?

How nice if there is an on / off button on our emotion............

Betrayal is more than that

2008-06-27T15:50:00.007+08:00

Today, I wanna talk about me opinion in relationship. I know... *NOT AGAIN* but I can't help it. If I don't write it down here, most probably I need to talk it off.

I believe that in a relationship there is something far more important for MEN to do than, say, remaining faithful or showing emotional intelligence. Not that staying faithful is not important, it is of cos must sure definitely on the top 3 list. Staying faithful includes no phone sex, flirting on msn/sms... blah blah blah.

This something is noticing whether your partner has got a new hairdo, smaller tummy, wearing higher heels. If I have to ask you, "do I look different?" you know you have already blown it. The man of men will get in there first with a casual but sincere, "you look different today." I would love a man like that. Then the start of a new conversation.

Another obsession I have is make up. Yes. I don't put on 24/7 and I am confident enough to step out of the house without any because I can afford to look the way I look without it. Some women can't. My obsession is not rooted to the desire to please men. It is more of an intra-gender competition. Especially after dating this guy who can't stop commenting how good these girls on the street look with make up. I want to look better because I know I can. Read me clear -
There is no greater act of betrayal in a relationship than to express admiration for my girlfriends or YOUR female colleagues.

and... I guess you have known by now, I'm aggressive and I don't like you to tell me what to do. Maybe you can try to be the man that I may put my pride down for. If it's too much of a risk for you, I suggest better not.

My Personal Website

2008-06-17T21:12:00.004+08:00

I have asked Shiok Guy to design and put together a blog or rather a website for me to promote Woman Related Health products and services from United State of America (USA)

Most part of the website is still under-construction, except Breast Beauty is kind of completed. I will use this site to promote products and services which will benefit us woman as a whole. Do check them out and if you like try some of the products and services out.

I will add on more when time permit, the next part will be Weight Loss part of the site.

Cheers
Sensually Fun Girl
http://senbeayou.blogspot.com/

Tips from police

2008-06-10T13:34:00.003+08:00

The following article is from a friend of mine who happen to be a victim of snatch thief. Luckily she just let her bag goes without struggling with the motorcyclist.

With the recent price hike on petrol and hence snow ball effect on others goods and services, I belief the crime rate will surely climb too. So beware and be smart.

The following tips are from USA police but I belief it applies equally effective here in Malaysia.

1. Tip from police: The elbow is the strongest point on your body.If you are close enough to use it, do! 警方的提醒：手肘是身体最有力的部位。距离够近，就善用手肘！

2. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your Wallet and / or purse than you and he will go for the wallet or purse.RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 假如歹徒向你要皮夹或钱包，不要递给他，而是将皮夹或钱包往远处丢去。歹徒很可能对财物比对你有兴趣，他会去拿皮夹或钱包，这是你逃跑的机会。往反方向拼命跑！！

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives. 假如你被丢进车子的后车厢：把车后灯踢破，将你的手从洞中伸出去，用力挥手驾驶人看不到你，但是其他人看得到。这个方法救过无数人命.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their car after shopping,eating,working,etc., and just sit (doing their check book, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go.女性常常在购物、吃饭及下班后进入车子，然后就坐在驾驶座上处理事情（如记帐、列清单等）。千万不要这么做！歹徒会藉机观察情势，闯入车内，拿枪威胁，控制你的行动。

AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. 进入车内，立即锁门，驶离现场。

5 . A Few Notes About Getting Into Your Car In a Parking Lot,or Parking Garage: 在平面停车场及立体停车场的几个注意事项：

A. Be aware: look around you; look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. (And check out under the car as you approach.) 要警觉：环顾四周；察看车内的乘客座和后座。（接近车子时，留意车底。）

B. If you're parked next to a big van you should enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars. 假如你的车子停在箱型车旁，则应该从乘客车门进入你的车子。许多连续杀人犯都是趁着女性要进入车中时，将她们拖进箱型车中加害。

C. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car,you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.) 观察停放在你左右两边的车子。如果有男性单独坐在最近的邻车内，最好回到购物中心或办公室，找保全人员或警察陪你回去。宁愿防患未然，也不要终生遗憾。 ( 大惊小怪总比丧命好。 )

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone an the perfect crime spot). 永远搭电梯，不要走楼梯。（楼梯间是一个可怕的地方，容易让人形单影只，变成最好的犯罪场所。 )

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ, RUN! 假如歹徒有枪而你并没有受到他的控制，一定要跑！一百次中，只有四次歹徒会袭击逃跑的目标；即使他攻击你，大多不会是致命的部位，要跑！

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women? He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim. 身为女性，我们总是发挥同情心：不要再这样！这样会增加被强暴或是杀害的机会。一个叫泰得．邦迪（ Ted Bundy ）的连续杀人犯就是一个相貌堂堂并且受过良好教育的人，总是利用女性的同情心。他走路时带着一根手杖或是跛行，经常要求别人 '帮忙 '他进入车内或是看一下他的车子，趁机绑架受害者。

Tracking Via Mobile Phone

2008-06-08T03:22:00.003+08:00

Do you want to know where your hubby is located now in the world?
Do you want to be able to track and find out where is your kid?
Do you want to know whether your staff is really sick and at home? Not at Genting having fun!

As long as you know their mobile phone number, you can track them down!

Please respect the privacy of others, don't simply track anyone who does not concern you! If you trust your hubby or wife, don't track their number. The truth might be a bitter pill to swallow!

Click here ..http://www.sat-gps-locate.com/

分享分享

2008-06-07T02:27:00.001+08:00

爱情金句
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To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.

永远的期待
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A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.

恋爱数学
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Smart man + smart woman = romance
Smart man + dumb woman = affair
Dumb man + smart woman = marriage
Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy

轻松笑一下

2008-06-05T19:27:00.008+08:00

生活就象是强奸 - 你反抗不了就要享受
工作就象是轮奸 - 你不行就让别人上
社会就象是手淫 - 一切靠自己双手解决
发薪水就象来月经 - 一个月没来就惨了!!

都市减肥一族的三餐搭配

2008-06-05T15:49:00.004+08:00

减肥的重点就是在饮食上，如何通过控制饮食进而达到摄入少量的热量是减肥的关键，而在减肥的同时保证身体的健康是不容忽视的。

下面我们介绍一下减肥者应如何安排好一日三餐。　　

早餐：由于一夜未吃东西，人体血糖下降，如果省略早餐，会使我们一上午的情绪都不稳定。合理的早餐应以主食及蛋白质并重，但要避免烧饼、油条等油脂高的食物，餐后再吃点水果，会使你整天神清气爽。　　

午餐：中餐选择面食时，避免炒面、方便面，而以清汤面加青菜为主，一定不要淋上热油。油炸类食物食用时，先要剥去油炸过的皮再吃，可减少热量摄取。　　

晚餐：上班族的晚餐通常是三餐之冠，但晚上却是一天活动机会最少的时候，如果此时大量进食，热量无法适量代谢，会在体内转换成脂肪储存，长期如此就变胖了。所以晚餐应以低热量并且七分饱为主，适量增加蔬菜的量，还要记住睡前三小时内禁止进餐，夜宵最好不吃。　　

在此基础上，以少食多餐的方式安排一天饮食最好，如果你想吃点零食，可在下午吃些低热量的点心，也可降低晚餐摄取量。

严禁夜销
您是不是在关注如何减肥呢?您是不是白天控制饮食，到了睡前却难忍饥饿，就吃个小点心慰劳一下自己呢？小心！肥胖就是从这儿来的！因为减肥是绝对禁吃夜宵的喔！如果你实在是饥饿难忍就吃点豆腐、蔬菜，只要不再饿得睡不着觉就马上停住。

我们的身体在晚上很容易储存脂肪，若是在睡前摄取大量的热量，那么身体自然就会囤积一堆脂肪，当然就会在不知不觉中胖起来罗！这就是为什么节食的人晚上禁吃宵夜的原因。

所以，要想减肥，晚间热量的摄取便一定要特别地注意，在此建议节食者：蛋白质是想要减少热量的人可以考虑的食物。例如：鱼肉、豆腐之类，热量既少营养又高。而且蛋白质以晚上摄取比较好，因为人体在入睡后4个小时所分泌的生长荷尔蒙会最多，晚上吃富含蛋白质的食物可以促进体内细胞和肌肉的生长，想减肥的人是适量的吃一些。

减肥者还应严格减少喝酒，酒精是次高热能食物，每克油脂产生7大卡热能。100毫升XO的酒(约含43毫升酒精)，进了肚子后会产生240大卡热能，等于吃一碗米饭，一次应酬下来，光是喝的酒量，就可等于吃了好几碗饭，故应酬多的人很难不胖。

减肥其实并不难,只要遵守纪律,你也可以轻松的瘦下来。

2008-06-05T15:46:00.002+08:00

热量计算
一个人要维持目前的体重，每天每公斤体重必须吃进30至35大卡的热量。一个50公斤的人，每天吃进1500大卡至2000大卡，体重就会维持现状。如每天多吃了250大卡而维持一个月，就会长肥1公斤。相反每天少吃了250大卡而维持一个月，则可减肥1公斤；每天少吃了1000大卡而维持一个周，同样也可减肥1公斤。也就是每7000大卡热量可换1公斤肉肉。

研究肥胖症的学者认为，安全的减肥速度是每周减肥不要超过1公斤。肥胖的人如把食物减半，大约就可每天减去近1000大卡热量，这样每周就能减1公斤。但如果您本来吃的不多，您可不能硬是减少1000大卡热量，节食减肥期间每天所摄取的食物热量不能少于1000大卡。

人体生理上每天至少需要1000大卡的热量，才能从事安全而有效的运转，否则，心肌和血管平滑肌的蛋白质会逐渐流失而造成心脏血管疾病，严重时会死亡，国外常有报道因每日摄入总热量低於500大卡而死亡的。另外，每天低于1000大卡的食物热量如维持很久，会因人体细胞由于长期营养不足而转变成癌细胞，种下数十年后得癌的不幸结局，这一点是一般人所未曾想到的。长期营养不良是得癌症的主要原因之一。
由于有的人经常使用不健康的减肥品或经常节食，他的代谢水平可能会比常人低，也就是他不用摄入这么多的热量就可以维持现有体重，所以请不要随便使用不健康的减肥方法。

严禁夜销
您是不是在关注如何减肥，您是不是白天控制饮食，到了睡前却难忍饥饿，就吃个小点心慰劳一下自己呢？小心！肥胖就是从这儿来的！因为减肥是绝对禁吃夜宵的喔！如果你实在是饥饿难忍就吃点豆腐、蔬菜，只要不再饿得睡不着觉就马上停住.

我们的身体在晚上很容易储存脂肪，若是在睡前摄取大量的热量，那么身体自然就会囤积一堆脂肪，当然就会在不知不觉中胖起来罗！这就是为什么节食的人晚上禁吃宵夜的原因。
所以，要想减肥，晚间热量的摄取便一定要特别地注意，在此建议节食者：蛋白质是想要减少热量的人可以考虑的食物。例如：鱼肉、豆腐之类，热量既少营养又高。而且蛋白质以晚上摄取比较好，因为人体在入睡后4个小时所分泌的生长荷尔蒙会最多，晚上吃富含蛋白质的食物可以促进体内细胞和肌肉的生长，想减肥的人是适量的吃一些。

Smart-Stupid or Stupid-Smart Woman

2008-06-05T09:13:00.013+08:00

I have been perceived by some of my friend as i always choose to avoid some 'smart moves'. However, I am seeing some friends who are doing the so call 'smart' moves but ended up feeling upset after knowing the result...

Therefore, i choose to be 'stupid' but happy woman.

I have my own opinion:

Smart-Stupid-woman -> being perceived as stupid but in real is smart and does the right stupid thing to stay happy

Stupid-Smart-woman -> only she thinks she does the smart thing......

What do you think??

The choice is yours...

women and deadlines

2008-06-03T23:28:00.004+08:00

Women. EER = 354 - (6.91 x age [y]) + PA x { (9.36 x weight [kg]) + (726 x height [m]) }
I found this definition of women. What?!

I have friends who fix some kinda deadline to their relationship with their guys. A you-have-to-ask-to-marry-me-before - (fill in the date) deadline if not... I think you are not the guy for me. It is always easy for these friends in their mid 20s to move on and say byebye to the guys.

BUT - now... some friends in their 30s, jump right into marriage after barely half a year with that man. Well, some lived happily ever after while the rest (fill in the blank).

Sometimes it saddens me to know that women wanna marry because they see it as a NEED. They rather compromise and look beyond all the shortcomings of that man. His terrible temper, his dirty habits, lack of ambition, .....and more more more

WHY?

Simply because they have a deadline to meet and since the guy is there to provide for them, why not? They need to have a family. They need to have children. A man can provide for their basic needs... food... warmth... shelter... comfort... love? Why not?

A few years down the road, they started worrying about the financial situation at home. The man ain't earning enough to provide for you. He is working late every other day. You started comparing that Mrs So-and-so is having a maid and she has a car. OR
Another possibility, your man has given you a big house, a big car, two maids, ten credit cards and you have all the time in the world... to worry about if he is having an affair with his pretty and young secretary. That's true, when women have limited worries, they have the capability to create some. Don't start yelling at me "My husband ain't like that! and I trust him! I feel so secure! You are just jealous!"Oh darn.

What I'm trying to say is - women, be independent! Is it that tough or we simply choose the easy way out? Or we give it all up for L.o.v.e?

Of cos there are exceptional where the prince and princess lived happily ever after. Just my private POV out loud.

Welcome

2008-06-03T08:51:00.019+08:00

Welcome!

Welcome to Stylo Mum Claptrap. Click About us to learn a bit more about this site from Shiok Guy prospective. Over here it will be mine, Sensually Fun's prospective on what Stylo Mum Claptrap is all about.

I was asked by Shiok Guy to be part of the author team to contribute to articles to this blog. This blog is opened for female author only, and the topic of the blogs should be related to woman in general. I know it is a wide area to cover, well that's mean we have a lot to blog about. Right?

Since this blog is contributed by a group of authors and it is not censored before it is published by Shiok Guy. So if you find any offensive article please kindly notify The Shiok Guy immediately, so he can take step to remove the said article.

What are not allowed here are: Sexually explicit Picture or Language, Racist and Hate, Religious Extremist, Abusive Article and Illegal Business Activities.

We are a group of Modern Stylo Women who are dared to speak our mind openly, if you find the language use, terminology, phrases, wording, description and sexuality openness is not your cup of soup, kindly leave us alone and we wish you well.

Thank you and happy reading
Regards
Sensually Fun
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AGNES之变身记

2008-06-02T23:52:00.017+08:00

由于家族遗传肥胖基因,加上饮食不当.从小到大就胖的我,从来没有瘦过.产后体重一直往上升.直到105KG时,健康亮了起红灯.糖尿病找上我,月事也开始不来,甚至一年都没来一次.>.< 在不得已的状况之下,我开始踏上了减肥这条路... 一年半的时间,从105KG减到目前的74KG.一路走来并不会辛苦,因为减肥已经成为我生活中的一部分了. 好的营养,对的减肥概念,是减肥不复胖的不二法门. 想要减肥,办法问我~

Did you Orgasm?

2008-06-02T18:06:00.028+08:00

How many sexually active woman actually reach orgasm? How many of us actually know what orgasm is all about?

Gossiping among my girl friends on the Big O tend to have different view on orgasm. Sadly I belief a lot of women are just Arouse, High or Feel Good. One girl friend said "I feel good and wet when I orgasm". What is orgasm for woman then?

For man it is so reachable, predictable and measurable. So reachable because as long as we rub it, stroke it, suck it and with enough stimulation the man is going to just orgasm, come or shot! It is so predictable because when a man orgasm you cannot miss the jet of swimming active sperms. It is so measurable on how big his orgasm is by how many gallon of liquid he pumps out.

How about we woman? Statistically only about 35% of women reach orgasm during sexual intercourse. Woo! 65% of women never experience the joy of the ultimate big O. Very sad indeed! I belief the number is more than 65% for most Asian woman since we tend to avoid the issue of sexuality, and we see it as taboo.

Let me stop here for a while, and you girl go home and ask yourself. Did you REALLY Orgasm? Let us explore more in order to help us move into the 35%.

Damn I don't want to be the 65% for the rest of my life. Do you?

Hey! For you man who read this post, have you even ask if your partner reach the Big O? Don't just fall down and sleep straight away lah! For your information, The Shiok Guy has setup up similar blog for man only, click here

Love...

2008-06-01T17:18:00.004+08:00

Love...

There are different kind of loves...

God's love, Human's love, material's love..etc...What love do you desire?? Have you ever think of it??

GOD's love is the one I choose..because with HIS love, I can survive until today..HIS love never failed or faded. HIS love remains same forever. We are sinner and yet HE still forgives us no matter how many times we sins against HIM. HE still loves us..

I remembered few years back. A friend of mine sent me a poem named "Footprints In The Sand". I cried when I read it, very meaningful poem...It shows how GOD loves me. To HIM..we are HIS forever love..Love is simple and yet complicated.

What does "Love" mean to you? For me, Love is a recipe in a relationship to anything, it requires sincerity, no jealousy, no keep record on people's wrong doing, very unconditional in giving care and protecting of one another.

Love is very powerful, when we love something or falling in love, we will do anything to protect and care for it. But...in our society, we are getting more realistic, materialistic..our love is more to conditional love and self-centered. This is always leading to human problems nowadays. You can see those who are heart broken, mental problems, family matters and etc.

Few examples, I have a friend who had gone through bad relationships, he is so frustrated. He told me, he cant believe in love, it's all fake and rubbish. Ended up now he becomes a one night stand guy or even sometimes, when he is lonely, he will get free sex from his friends. He needs sex but do not believe in love. Another good friend of mine, she is very nice, smart and caring lady. She is blinded with love, she sacrified alot for the man she loved but the man never appreciated it. Her life is messy now, she becomes a good drinker, carrying her fake smile. My heart is crying for her..Then i started questioning, why all of this happen?? Where is the love??

I really want to tell everyone, love others like how you love yourself. Forgives those who have hurt us. I know it's hard..but that's the only way to get yourself out of the darkness and sorrow life. How long you want to be in the darkness? Don't you feel tired?? Living in darkness is a very long process...

Forgiveness is another important part in a love, willing to let go all the hatred will bring us not only happiness but joyful heart.Life is so fragile till we hardly control what is going to happen tomorrow.. Why dont all of us together get ourself out of darkness?? Live in this earth with joyful heart and leave all beautiful memories to those who love us so much. If no one love you, remember JESUS, OUR LORD always love us, no matter how sinful we are. As long as you open ur heart and accept HIM to be your loved one forever. JESUS IS MY FOREVER LOVE, how bout you??

To my parents, brothers and my late sister..I really want to tell you..I love you with all my heart..no matter how imperfect you are..You are my family given by GOD to me. Whilst to my beloved man, I want to tell you, I really love you..you are the precious gift from GOD for me..To forever Love JESUS..I love you so much..thanks for my everything..I know my sister rest in peace with YOU..I love you Ah Mei

.***written from my heart***

Loves,

AhDear_Yvonne

Every woman is a prostitute??!!

2008-06-01T16:57:00.004+08:00

The other day when i was having dinner with a guy friend, i couldn't remember what we were chatting about and how we started ...but he came out with such statement "every woman is a prostitute".

Some women are prostitute to many guys...but some are just prostitute to one. Really 岂有此理..

He had his stupid logic behind it - Real pros provide sex to customer to get money. While wives provide sex to their hubby for protection, security, of course money as well..

Haha i was stunt with what he said...In fact, quite true...Think of it..why did i married my husband?? Ya, for a shelter, for a shoulder to cry on, for a companion, etc etc.. In return, he got to have sex with me?? Kind of 'commercialise' ??...hahaha

2008-06-01T13:22:00.004+08:00

The NS poll on Shiok Guy's Opinion closed last night, Click here for the result

S53 from Singapore

2008-06-01T12:14:00.003+08:00

A blog where women from different places put their thoughts into words. Do you really care about their background? age? look? Let's just keep it this way. As what Oscar Wilde said, "the final mystery is oneself." I shall be - S53 from Singapore.

Agnes是谁?

2008-06-01T09:44:00.004+08:00

Agnes是我，一个爱美的现代妈妈兼体重管理教练.来自JB。有三个可爱的孩子。

活了将近30年，回憶起過去很多事，我一直都是很幸運的一個人。

我喜欢美好的事物，美好的一切。现代女人应该懂得提高自己的能量让自己变的更有魅力。

感谢shiok guy的邀请，我会常来这里分享我的心得~~

Agnes

Contact Us

2008-05-31T23:10:00.003+08:00

Icy Kiwi from the best country in the world?

2008-05-31T18:24:00.003+08:00

The place of long cloud, stretch of greens, sure – more sheep than human.

The Lord of the Ring’s choice of place follows by Narnia and also many more who wish to retire and grow old……..

However, in 19 September 1993, women in this lovely country celebrated the right to vote and enjoy the privilege granted after 106 years. The recognition is getting better having a woman as the PM. What can we say? Are women dominating the professional world? Definitely women are more than men here….. so ladies not sure you should be here if you are looking for a partner.

Coming from a different country and working as an executive does not make you a different person here. Everyone has the same benefit including your kids (if you have any).

Cheers
The Icy Kiwi

Who is Sensually Fun?

2008-05-31T15:39:00.005+08:00

I am a working Stylo Singer woman in Kuala Lumpur, Twenty something working as Marketing and Promotion Executive.

I will be contributing to Stylo Mum Claptrap whenever I have something to shout about, and The Shiok Guy has been pressurizing me to have my posting up and going ASAP!

How do I look like? Who am I?

It is up to your imagination. Please don't ask me for my mobile number and picture. If you have any comment, kindly just leave it in the comment section.

Thank you

Stylo Fun and Cheers
Sensually Fun

Health Tips

2008-05-31T15:34:00.002+08:00

少喝奶茶 ;
Reduce the intake of Tea Tarik;

不吃刚烤的面包;
Reduce toasted bread, just eat it fresh;

远离充手机电源 ;
Keep a distance away from Handphone Charger;

白天多喝水 ,晚上少喝 ;
Drink more water during day time, less at night;

一天 不喝多于两杯咖啡;
Drink less than 2 cups of coffee a day;

少吃油多的食物 ;
Reduce intake of fatty food;

最佳睡眠为晚上十点至凌晨六点;
Sleep early at 10pm and wake up early at 6am;

晚上五点后少吃大餐 ;
No heavy intake of food after 5pm;

每天喝酒不多过一杯 ;
Less than a cup of alcohol per day, hmm I think Red Wine should be fine;

不用 冷水服胶囊;
Don't take capsuled supplement or medicine with ice cold water;

睡前半小时服药忌 立刻躺下 ;
After taking any medication, allow 30 minutes before going to sleep;

睡眠不足八小时人会变笨;
Lack of 8 hours sleep per day will affect your intelligent;

有午睡习惯的人不易老 ;
Secret for youthfulness is taking an afternoon nap (My dad look really young);

若不能晨跑，傍晚5 点至 8 点的时间是散步的好时间；
If morning jog is out of question, take an evening walk daily;

电池剩一格时不要 接电话 ,剩一格时辐射是平时的一千倍 ;
Don't use your mobile phone when the signal is weak, the radiation is 1000 time stronger;

Disclaimer

2008-05-31T13:50:00.001+08:00

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About Us

2008-05-31T12:52:00.006+08:00

Welcome to Stylo Mum Claptrap!

What is this blog all about?

Firstly what is Stylo mean? Stylo means stylish and Stylo-mylo is occasionally used in context of describing modern time women.

Second the Mum means women but it does not specifically referring to a mother. We choose Stylo Mum instead of Stylo Women or Stylo Ladies because we belief you are eventually a mother to some lovely children, one way or another.

Thirdly Claptrap means Nonsense, Hogwash, Rubbish, Drivel, Twaddle, Baloney and Rot. Isn't that a paradox? A Stylo modern Mum but we all full of Nonsense and more.

What the hack! We are here to just write anything that we feel strongly about. In a way to release some steams, stresses (eating ice cream to release stresses is bad === Fat Fat)

Who is Shiok Guy?

Shiok Guy is a friend who setup this blog (technically) since we Stylo Mum has no time for Nonsense thing like HTML claptrap and others nerdy things.

Who Are We?

If you want to join us as a Stylo Mum and write about whatever you want to scream about, just click here and send an email to The Shiok Guy. He will setup the necessary for you to be part of the Stylo Mum Team, and we shall Claptrap together until the cow come home!

Current Stylo Mum are: -

Sensually Fun
LavenderDreamworld
The Icy Kiwi
Snow
Stylomum
ycmouse
AhDear_Yvonne
Agnes