When a man says “I Love you”

Today, J met her Latino lover, Mr. SG. They are not couple or even in a serious relationship but they had sex. In short, they are F**king Buddies a.k.a FuBu. Both of them basically have a common understanding that both of them are do not ready to have a steady relationship. They had sex for couple of time, they are happy with what they have right now. However, they are never interfering each other personal life; they just enjoy whatever happened in this moment.

This afternoon, after the romantic and loving moment n the bed, Mr. SG requested a massage from J. Mr. SG enjoys massage, or may be he loves the massages given by J. While Mr. SG was enjoying his massage, suddenly he said “oh! I love you so much…”

At first J was not sure whether she heard what he said, so she just ignored it or may be he just loves massages so much. Then Mr. SG repeated the same sentence again, this time, J heard it clearly. But she just kept quite because she didn’t know how to response to him.

Then, Mr. SG looked in to her eyes and asked her, “Do you love me too?” J was shocked, and she was speechless.
Mr. SG said “You need to think about it? You Don’t Love me? Oh! You don’t love me at all!!!” Then he put his head underneath the pillow and wanted J to give me more massages and J whispered “I hope I can really love you”.
J called me after that and shared with me about what’s happened.

I was wondered for a real player, he must be very careful on what he said, because what he said are giving false hopes to a woman who slept with him before. Previously, he just said “I like you… I miss you … I miss your body…” but he never said “I love you”. Does he mean that? Or he said it because he really love the massages provided by J? J told me, Mr. SG said “I Love you” twice within 2-hour when they met.

The rational side of J understands how to play the game, but the emotional side of her, is hoping that what Mr. SG said was truly from the deepest of his heart. Sometimes, or most of the time, girls are more emotional driven; sex is not their priority in the hierarchy chart, what they need most is care and love. As for J, she was delighted after that, because now her heart is full of love.

So when a man says “I Love you”, does he really mean it?


The definition of I LOVE YOU:-
From Wiktionary: -

• An affirmation of affection or deep caring especially to a family member.
• An affirmation of romantic feeling to a lover or spouse.
• A platonic expression of inclination or liking to a friend.
  

From Wikipedia: -

• Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction.
  

From Cambridge dictionaries: -

• Love (LIKE SOMEONE) to have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and sexually attracted to them, or to feel great affection for a friend or person in your family